On Expectations

Expectations are like a poison vine that can grow silently, almost unseen, unnoticed, wrapping itself around trees and bushes, sending its tendrils out in different directions. That’s how they grow in human beings, too...silently, unseen, unnoticed, wrapping itself around a relationship.

Expectations poison relationships. Because expectations grow in relationships. Unknowingly, they take root somewhere inside the mind but usually remain unvoiced, almost hiding in some dark corner of the psyche. And, like a venomous snake, they strike at the most vulnerable moment.

When one mind is poisoned with expectations it doesn’t take long to spread its silent poison to another, magically almost.

It’s as if a relationship is heading for a big test, a contest, a duel. And, it becomes a duel not of hearts but of egos.

What feeds expectations? For expectations to grow there’s got to be some source, some nutrition, something voiced or unvoiced, a statement in passing, perhaps! That’s where expectations draw most sustenance from, almost by force.

Expectations usually end up creating fissures, a break or even a confrontation in a relationship.

Who gains from it? No one! But one could if one were to take a step back, analyze the very feeling of an expectation and observe oneself going through the process, feeling its poison act on the mind and emotions. They help shine light through one’s armor. When one sees those chinks one can set to work, fixing them so that the armor succeeds in its purpose of protecting the one who wears it from a sudden unexpected attack from some unseen corner.

Expectations are a monster that must be slain with the sword of awareness.

- rajyogi

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